Hi Reader,
More than half of American adults are single.
Let that sink in for a minute.
And yet most churches still preach and program like everyone is married with two kids and a mortgage.
In this episode, I sit down with JJ and Kait Tomlin from Heart of Dating, and honestly, I learned a lot. We talk about why dating feels so high-pressure today, how purity culture fallout still lingers, why commitment is harder than ever, and what pastors often get wrong when we talk about singleness.
Here’s the part that stuck with me: many singles don’t need another sermon on the “gift of singleness.” They need empathy, clarity, and a church culture that doesn’t make them feel behind in life.
If over 30% (and in some cities, over 50%) of your church is single, this isn’t a side issue. It’s a discipleship issue.
If you lead a church, this conversation will help you pastor the people actually sitting in your seats.
Listen in, take notes, and maybe rethink how your church approaches dating and singleness.
🎧 Listen now and take the next step toward healthier leadership. Watch it on YouTube or tune in wherever you listen to podcasts.
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